When I say not getting angry, I am not just referring to throwing things of having tantrums, but even small things like ‘venting’ simply for the sake of it, cursing, or just being in that state of anger. For many people this is hard. In the West we are accustomed with the idea of “it’s my party, I’ll cry if I want to” and “letting off steam”. In our society, we are told to let out our ‘feelings’. While I am all for spiritual and mental health, I think there are other ways then venting/yelling, etc..
I think I’m getting a handle on this not getting angry thing. Granted I have not exactly reached a state of inner tranquility, but I feel myself moving, alhamdulillah. What do you folks do to control your anger? One thing I do is simply remind myself that just because something feels bad does not mean it is bad. Imam Ghazali, in his Deliverence from Error he likens this to medicine a doctor gives to his patient. Although medicine is often distasteful, the patient does not stop the administration of the medication simply for the taste nor even questions the doctor about the remedy!
Anyways, that is all for now, I just wanted to blog about that. More to come God-willing.
Anony Sufi
